I’ve been mulling this post over in my head for awhile. Do you ever get those ideas where you can’t stop thinking about them but you know that they’re going to require more brain capacity than you have at the moment? Still, I couldn’t let this go and it’s something I’ve been using to get me through some tough moments.
Things that matter and things that don’t:
Body weight does NOT matter (yes, yes, I know that it does matter to some point and I’m not advocating everyone become obese). I shared this story with Juliet a few weeks ago – I woke up feeling pretty good and decided I’d jump on the scale (I never learn).
I think you all know where this is going; the number was a few lbs. higher than I expected. Then a light bulb went off. Nothing changed in between the good vibes I had before stepping on the scale and the moment those numbers flashed on that evil screen. I was the same person in the same body and I realized that I still felt good! I turned around and had an awesome morning! As Robb Wolf said in a podcast, I should tie a big red bow on that scale and give it to someone else to let it mess with their head!
What I see in the mirror does NOT matter! I have a horrible relationship with my body. I have an awful response to pictures of myself. But that is something that I’m fighting against each and every day. I saw a picture of J & I toasting our engagement and was horrified at my “double chin.”
I mentally slapped myself, realized I do NOT have a double chin and forced my eyes to recognize the joy in the two people at that moment. Stacy wrote an extremely powerful post about accepting your body as the vessel of your journey – “you do not have to be ideal to be beautiful.” I will keep repeating that in my head and it will keep healing my bond with my physical self.
Perfection does NOT matter! J’s mom (my future Mother-in-Law!!!) made us a card
I think it sums us up a life-well-lived perfectly – with laughter, a sense of whimsy, & the ability to accept life for all it’s foibles because those are the things that make it beautiful.
Because after all, love is one of those things that does matter.